Don't make a bad situation worse
19/04/14 11:20 Filed in: response-styles
You have just had a target of bullying behaviour report it to you. There are a number of ways that you can address the issue. But what you say to the target can make a huge difference to the way they feel about themselves and the confidence they will have in you dealing with the situation. While there is lots of well meaning advice out there, here is some that should be avoided. Read More...
Five more mistakes to avoid when dealing with behaviours
12/01/14 20:46 Filed in: options | principles
Here are some more tips on what to avoid when dealing with inappropriate behaviour.
1. Avoid creating the situation into a win/lose proposition. You can use consequences but make sure you are not going to gain something out of it. 'If you do not get this done I will give some of my work to do' is not a good way to provide consequences. You appear like you are abusing your authority and this can create resentment. Read More...
1. Avoid creating the situation into a win/lose proposition. You can use consequences but make sure you are not going to gain something out of it. 'If you do not get this done I will give some of my work to do' is not a good way to provide consequences. You appear like you are abusing your authority and this can create resentment. Read More...
Avoiding the 7 traps of not recognising bullying behaviour
28/11/12 12:20 Filed in: principles | myself
My previous post discusses 7 reasons why we fail to recognise some behaviours as bullying behaviours. So below is some things that we can do about to avoid these traps. Read More...
7 Traps in failing to recognise bullying behaviour
25/11/12 10:34 Filed in: principles | myself
One of the tricky parts of recognising if a behaviour is bullying behaviour is that we all have different views and perceptions. This can lead to one person thinking the behaviour is okay while another to see it as inappropriate. Mishna (2012) outlines 7 factors effecting our perceptions on bullying behaviour which are summarised below. Read More...
Five words to avoid in difficult conversations
14/08/12 13:20 Filed in: communication
In difficult conversations what and how you say things can make a big different to the response that you get. Try and avoid these 5 words: Read More...
Denying feelings never helps
We all have feelings. Even though some of us may find it at times difficult to recognise or understand them. It is amazing how often we can ignore this fact and this can lead to two possible impacts. We can sometimes deny our own feelings or we deny the feelings of others. Read More...
5 common mistakes when dealing with inappropriate behaviour
There are times when someones behaviour needs to have consequences. But there is some common things people do that hinder rather than help that person change their behaviour. Five common mistakes are: Read More...
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