When a person is using inappropriate behaviour it is easy to feel like they are personally attacking us. Sometimes this might be the case but in lots of circumstances Read More...

Tags: parenting, teaching, reflection, responding, emotions

My previous post discusses 7 reasons why we fail to recognise some behaviours as bullying behaviours. So below is some things that we can do about to avoid these traps. Read More...

Tags: bullying behaviour, bias, reflection, risks, mistakes, blaming

One of the tricky parts of recognising if a behaviour is bullying behaviour is that we all have different views and perceptions. This can lead to one person thinking the behaviour is okay while another to see it as inappropriate. Mishna (2012) outlines 7 factors effecting our perceptions on bullying behaviour which are summarised below. Read More...

Tags: bullying behaviour, risks, bias, blaming, mistakes, reflection

You see a behaviour and respond. This should include a description of the behaviour so they know what needs to change. An effective method to modify behaviour is offering them another option of how to behaviour. This little test can help you make sure you are giving them a replacement behaviour option. Read More...

Tags: feedback, responding, reflection, teaching, parenting, Youth work, adults, volunteer

A pause for thought can make all the difference in handling inappropriate behaviour. For everyone involved. Too often it is tempting to fall into a mental trap that speed and urgency is good. Let's just get it over with and move on. That fails to take into account people need time to think about their actions. Read More...

Tags: responding, suggestions, reflection

Having good communication skills is really important in helping others change their behaviour. If you are having difficulty with someones behaviour and everything you try does not work, take some time to reflect on how you have been communicating to them. Read More...

Tags: responding, I-messages, reflection