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Idea’s for rewards for good behaviour part-3

19/05/12 14:12 Filed in: strategies | resources | response-styles

As outlined in rewards parts 1 & 2 it helps to encourage good behaviour by offering incentives and small rewards. Here is a further 11 ideas for rewards for young children through to teens:
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Tags: reinforce, parenting, school age, teenage, agreements

Idea’s for rewards for good behaviour part-2

16/05/12 09:39 Filed in: strategies | resources | response-styles

As outlined in rewards part 1 it helps to encourage good behaviour by offering incentives and small rewards. Below is 23 ideas for rewards for preteens and teens:
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Tags: reinforce, parenting, agreements, teenage, school age

Idea’s for rewards for good behaviour part 1

15/05/12 10:34 Filed in: strategies | resources | response-styles

It helps to encourage good behaviour by offering incentives and small rewards. If there is a particular behaviour problem then getting an agreement to make changes can be supported with a reward when they do well. Here is 30 ideas for rewards for preschool & young children: Read More...

Tags: agreements, reinforce, parenting, young children

3 strategies anyone can use

08/05/12 12:00 Filed in: strategies

Responding to a behaviour that is called a strategy. There are many ways to reach behavioural goals so it is no surprise there are lots of different strategies to try. Here are a brief description of three of my most used strategies:

Naming it
Swapping
Shaping

Understanding the difference between I-messages and You-messages

17/04/12 10:04 Filed in: communication | tools | response-styles | options

You might want to read ‘You-messages can work for and against you’ to get the background for this post. I had pointed out that you can have an I-message and a You-message combined like ‘I feel angry when you call me names’. It is common for those new to I-messages to use I feel …(feeling) when you … (behaviour). But an effective I-message does not contain a ‘you’ in it. Read More...

Tags: I-messages, You-messages, feedback, blaming, reinforce

You-messages can work for and against you

13/04/12 12:24 Filed in: communication | tools | response-styles | options

Following on from my previous post ‘How to get your message across respectfully’ the other way we can communicate is using You-messages. In You-messages, the message contains either you or you’re in it. For example, ‘You make me so angry when you don’t clean up after yourself.’ Using a You-messages blames the person for the situation and judges them. So it pays to know when to use one. Read More...